How to plan a weddingBy Dinner suit team
We’ve been providing wedding advice for the groom and best men for many years now so we thought it time we put together a planner to make a grooms life easier.
Following the success of shows like ‘Don’t Tell The Bride’ it is now a lot more common to see grooms getting seriously involved in the organizing of the wedding. Well before you start panicking use our useful 12 month run-down to the wedding planner below to ensure you tick off all the bases and your special day runs without any hiccups.
12 months to go
- Firstly congratulations – she said yes … let the games begin. You need to choose a date (try and not clash this with any important sporting fixtures). Buy the wedding insurance before you start splashing out on pricey deposits.
- Consider a wedding planner. There’s always a lot to do so this could be a good move.
- Buy the wedding license and agree on the style/location of the wedding. Are you going with a religious affair based in London or a civil ceremony in Barbados.
11 months to go
- Hold a discussion with all relevant parties who will be paying for the event (ie the father of the bride) as you need to come up with a budget … and stick to it. Also start to make a list of people you will invite.
- Book a venue. Check out wedding shows and exhibitions. If you want great photo memories make sure the venue has suitable indoor and/or outdoor locations.
- You need to begin to organize the reception and inquire about the best caterers, music etc.
10 months to go
- It’s time to select the wedding party including the best man and ushers. Make sure you pick people who wont go and spoil the big day.
- The honeymoon is your time to chill after all this organizational work so research possible locations and spend time looking into where you would like to spend your time. Check out our guide to booking the honeymoon.
- Book the bride’s car and any additional cars. Use our guide to hiring a wedding car.
9 months to go
- Contact your guests and get those invites out.
- It’s time to choose the menus and arrange a tasting session with your caterer. You also may have to arrange the alcohol with the venue.
- It’s also time to arrange the speeches and work out who will give them, in what order and when. Speeches can be very nervous for many people so use our guide to giving speeches for hints and tips.
8 months to go
- Book keeping. Make sure you keep an eye on the budget to ensure you aren’t wildly over spending.
- You need to start booking all the relevant people such as drivers, photographers and entertainers and musicians.
- Are you going for a themed wedding? Well even if it’s not a Lord of The ring theme you still need to make sure everything coordinates (including your buttonhole flowers which should correspond with the bride’s bouquet).
7 months to go
- The cake is synonymous with any wedding – and you need to give the chefs time for design and manufacture. start planning this now.
- Choosing the best man. So who’s the lucky fella going to be. You should let him know what you expect from him.
- You should now book the honeymoon to avoid disappointment. Remember to think about insurance and any visas you may require.
HALF WAY THERE
- The wedding list. Everyone likes decent pressies so dont leave it to chance, register with a large department store such as John Lewis or Marks and Sparks and sign up to their registry list.
- Choosing the rings. It’s obviously important you get this right so check out our article on how to buy the correct ring.
- Picking a hotel. Most couples tend to leave for their honeymoon the day after the ceremony so you’ll need a local hotel. We suggest someone like hotels.com to book a hotel room (if you cheekily ask for extras as newly-weds you can blag fruit or a bottle of champagne). Remember your guests may also require accommodation for the night so perform some investigation on options available.
5 months to go
- Organise a car to take you to the hotel you are staying at. Check out our useful guide to booking a wedding car.
- Additional honeymoon duties including sorting out the wardrobe you will take with you for the trip and remember to visit a clinic for any vaccinations that may be required.
4 months to go
- Start to plan your stag night/weekend with your best man and ushers. Most of the time the groom simply has to roll with what the best man and ushers have organised. If you are a best man use our guide to planning the stag do. Remember have a memorable time and what goes on tour stays on tour.
3 months to go
- Choose your wardrobe. You need to make sure you visit a formal wear retailer but before this visit you would need to know if the theme is black tie (where you wear a tuxedo) or just formal attire. Most high street stores will measure you up to ensure the suits you and the wedding party are the best fit. You can also purchase tuxedos and wedding suits from top online stores. Use our guide to leading formal wear retailers for 2012.
- Buy thank you gifts for the various wedding party members such as bridesmaids, best man, page boys etc.
2 months to go
- There are always a few slackers who have not replied to the invites – so chase them up.
- Book the wedding rehearsal. Ensure you let all the people involved in the ceremony know when and where (normally a couple of days before the ceremony).
- Once you’ve finalized the guest list you’ll need to know where to seat everyone.
1 month to go
- You’ll need to collect your rings and wedding license. Make sure you speak with your best man on the best place to store them.
- Start rehearsing your speech – once a night in front of a mirror will ensure you come across as a smooth orator. You’ll also need to print out the order of service.
1 week to go
- Go pick up your suit. Most retailers will give you a week on a hired item (dont be late taking it back as there could be penalties to pay). Use our guides on how to tie bow ties, wear a kilt etc so you don’t panic on the big day.
- Make yourself look good. Get early nights, have a hair cut, shave etc so you’ll look the part at the wedding. Read our guide to looking good.
D-DAY – good luck and have fun!